Tan Lang Hua Lu in the Spouse Palace may invite a question about social opportunity. Hua Ji in the Wellbeing Palace raises a different question about rest. Do not subtract them into a single relationship score. Track four weeks of invitations, work events, couple time, and recovery time. Agree with a partner which events are shared and which can be declined. Fatigue calls for a schedule discussion, not a prediction.
Tan Lang Hua Lu and Rest in a Zi Wei Dou Shu Relationship Chart
Compare social opportunity with the time and energy available for recovery.